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Topic : Why some women really prefer oral sex.
Christopher Bruce here,
Everyone will not agree with my topic, that I know. In fact one lady told me point blank that she does not prefer oral sex, she just likes it a whole lot.
Some of my readers or listeners are also missing half of my point, because I am not just referring to women getting oral sex, I am also inclined to believe some women prefer to just give oral sex as well.
The reason for this topic is not about the art of oral sex, its about the science behind why some women are more likely to just want to get or even give it alone, not wanting the traditional sex roles to be engaged in with a man.
I was talking to a male client Lenny the other evening, he said that his woman was so good to him, every morning she starts his day off with a BJ (blow job / fellatio), he said she is so skilled that its always such a pleasure. He told me that she said that she did not want him leaving the house without already being sexually satisfied for the day. This was one of the stories that led me to my topic.
For some women, the ones that feel that they are skillful with “fellatio”, they also may really have an oral fixation/association with this as a pleasure zone for themselves. So for them, it is both a pleasure and a desire to keep their man from any outside need, that drives them to wanting to provide oral sex regularly. They themselves have sexual needs, but they are willing to hold back on that to a degree, to insure the man they care for is satisfied. Another reason is that some women are in the relationship for other reasons like comfort, stability and finance, so for some of these ladies, they just want a quick way to keep the man content enough to keep their other wants or needs coming. Yes, other reasons are out there, but I am just generalizing to get to my point across for this particular discussion.
Now as is the case with my male client Lenny from earlier, he was quite satisfied to start his day with his woman’s help, however he did say that by the time 10am rolled around, he would maybe just see another woman and have the same sexual fantasy and or erection as normal. So even with his woman being very loving every morning, he still had the same sexual urges before noon every day. It was not until I asked him to explain to me what satisfaction did his woman get out of HIS enjoyment every morning or what pleasure did he provide each morning (he said she wanted nothing only to please him) that he had a “ah ha” moment and realized that she was denying herself pleasure for his sake. It was when he recognized that her satisfaction was something that she put on hold to show him her love, but it was unfair. Sure sometimes if she did that was great, but for her to do it every morning and he not even 2 morning per week say to her “no baby, today it’s your turn you lay back” shows he needed me to intervene and provide him with insight.
On the other side of the spectrum, I interviewed some ladies, and after some hesitation at first, they told me that in getting oral sex, it made men that otherwise may not have been chosen before by them (as in maybe average looks or preferred style), appealing to them. In them explaining further, it was a common thread to what each lady said, that was, some men will either ask to only provide oral sex on these ladies (which made it easier for them to say ok then honey) or women would just in looking at a man, see that he is the type that would seemingly provide good oral sex. Now remember I am talking about some men that the ladies said they may would have otherwise not picked as a possible date.
In these instances, women were offered oral sex by MEN that maybe saw this as a better way to get intimate with a woman, than other more traditional ways. Sometimes the men felt that with the skills they have developed in this area, it can hurdle them over other objections women may have with them. With women that can look at a man and believe that his certain “look” as that one of a skilled “pussy licker” as a lady said, its a clear indication that some women are themselves looking for this (oral sex satisfaction) as one of the qualities they are seeking in a man.
Other women told me this, they said oral sex give men the ability to satisfy them to a degree. So because of oral sex, more men are given a fair opportunity to be with them. It allows some women to enjoy a wider variety of choices in men.
I think that everyone is seeking the same basic thing, everyone is looking for a way or a reason to get a connection to someone else. The real truth is that we desire a closeness, a bond on some level, so we are willing to try and do whatever we think the person we desire might enjoy. For some men, its not too complicated, they want to provide oral sex, even if its that alone the woman is willing to let them do, as a means of being intimate. Its not that the men are satisfied with only doing this, but by using oral sex as a means for getting close to someone they want, it provides them a sense of fulfillment and even more than that, HOPE.
For women it is a little more complicated, but still centered around the same word HOPE. The complications come in because of 3 main reasons to me. First, some women provide this type of sex to their man in their hope that it will keep him from straying. They also see it as a much quicker and cleaner way to sexually be pleasing. Second, women just want oral sex to have some intimate fun and enjoy it when a man says he just wants to “lick her vagi” so she can cum and not have to be bothered with getting herself overworked from him wanting more physical acts. Lastly, and this is the one women were more hesitant to tell, some women enjoy the satisfaction of giving a great blow job because it satisfies her man, but also because it satisfies her on 2 levels. The first being her ego in knowing she has skills in this area and second because the oral stimulation has roots within her that is very self pleasing.
In this topic, oral sex is used as a bridge to provide everyone with some level of satisfaction and hope.
When couples can get to discuss things more openly, when they can share the insecurities they have, knowing that their partner can be trusted with this deep knowledge, then the relationship will soar.
In our want for a better, more intimate, more satisfying relationship – sexual discussions and fearlessness to talk about insecurities have to be done.
I can go on and on, but suffice to say that this deserves much more than the few words provided here, hopefully it still can enlighten a few people to engage in more discussion on this very interesting subject.
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