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Topic ; Why men need mentor’s
In this 21st century more and more men are growing up in (a) single family homes (b) in families that are living in the same household, but everyone is alone with their own internet or TV devices.
Men need mentor’s because they will answer the question of WHY.
Why am I doing this that way or why am I doing this same thing again and again without success.
It can be in the area of relationships or personal development or business, just to name some of the big ones.
Did you know that 7 of the 10 largest Fortune 500 companies utilize mentor’s or coaches.
It is not a fad or a fluke, its been around for 35 years or more, people are being paid millions per year to provide skill and knowledge to everyone from company presidents to smaller workers around the world.
A question a mentor may start with is; What kind of work do you do sir? The answer will vary from big executive of a major corporation all the way to an entry level worker at McDonalds.
Then the next question might easily be; In this job, have you found your Purpose or Passion for living ? If you answer NO – then he or she may ask – why haven’t you been looking for your purpose ?
A mentor will widen your vision, and help you find the fulfillment for life that is missing.
Lot’s of men believe in this work all your life at a job, to one day retire and then live out your dream.
Well let me be the first to tell you, and if you don’t believe me, go to an insurance actuary (the person paid to calculate death rates for adults) and ask them. If they are honest, they will tell you that the average man will die 3 years after retirement. Yes my brothers, 3 years after retirement.
A mentor might be be the very first person to tell you, don’t wait for retirement, live out your dream now, because according to statistics, retirement equals death in a few years. Wow. Do you know how many men that would devastate, how many lives and the attitude towards retirement, this information could change.
Men need mentor’s because even in 2 parent households, parents get you ready for school, then at 18, helping you choose a college or other career training or they help you get into the work world. If its the work world, they will tell you what they were told, work hard and one day enjoy a good retirement. If you go to college, they tell you this same story only 4-8 years later.
Now before everyone tries to beat me up – I am not saying do not go to college, also I am not saying do not get a job. Let me make that plain – get a darn job and do your best, with integrity while there.
What I am further saying is; a mentor will help guide you to something way more. A mentor will ask you other questions besides finding your purpose in life.
Two questions come to mind (1) what are your beliefs and (2) what are your values
So if you believe that life is just a waste of time, that it doesn’t mater what you do, nothing will change. Or if you feel that you are just “big boned” for example, then you will never lose the weight you say you want to shed. That is your belief.
Belief’s can control us, but also so do our values.
Some people value their family, others maybe just value kicking back to relax.
It is these two things that your mentor can get you to understand fully about yourself.
A mentor shared this example some time ago; let me hopefully do it justice in remembering the story well.
In the story, a man had always wanted to play baseball in the pros. Well he was stuck in the minor league for some time until near the end of the baseball season he was called up to the big leagues. Well he rode the bench until the very last game of the season and in the 8th inning he was called up to play right field. In the 9th inning the game ended without him ever getting a chance to bat. The next season, sadly he was sent back down to the minor league. He never got his chance to bat in the big league, so he quit. Went on to school and got a job.
Well he was telling this story to a reporter years later and the reporter said to him, wow, you must have been so devastated to come so close to living out your dream of batting in the big leagues but never getting a chance.
The former baseball player said to the reporter, no sir, what would have really been devastating would have been to get that hit, if I had, I would have not lived here in this town, I would not have made the great friends I have now, but also I would not have become a doctor and saved this mans life, or this other little girl. Getting that at bat, he said, might have cost these 2 people their life. That would have been devastating.
A mentor can show you how life events that may seem to many as the end all, is just a step to take in a new direction for your life.
Men need mentor’s to guide them beyond a career that is unfulfilling, which by the way statistics have shown to be huge in so many men’s lives. With a mentor all that can change to one that has great purpose.
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