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Topic : Secrets and lies about meds, and for Men over 50 about your Prostate
Yes, I am back my dear friends.
A friend of mine died a little while ago, he was in his 40’s and seemingly healthy. However he had some time ago confided to me that he was sick, together we tried to continue his life as he had wished, with fun and laughter and not letting his other friends or family know that he did not have too much more time to be with them.
I did not like keeping things from his mother, but everyone else it did not bother me one bit about not telling them.
I know everyone thinks I have it easy most times, I just type out stories and insight and then go on my merry way, well the truth is different. The truth is I care about people, so the stories are not just forgotten about as they are written. Some of my friends have been struggling for some time, but I continue with them as long as they make progress. For clients or friends that know they are dying, it’s a challenge to get them to prepare or accept what is happening. That kind of thing is not easy for me or them. It does make me appreciate life, it does make me hug my children and loved ones. It does humble me. So it’s quite a lot of good that comes out of it too.
He told me I could write about his story only after he had died.
He was a brilliant man, a very good friend. He died from prostate cancer. He had gotten test results and even a second opinion to confirm the results, but he never had the removal surgery. He limited the treatments, opting not to get the harsh drugs that would extend his life, but make him sick or sickly looking. He died content and did it his way.
Let me tell you this, I am not a doctor, I am passing along information. I did the research, but others like PEW research company did it way before me. This was a personal need for me, I am a man over 50. I am right in the crosshairs of likely men to have to go through this.
Now let me explain this little known fact that you should ask your doctor about. Its called the NNT. Look it up on Google. In medical terms, this stands for “the number needed to treat”. What the heck it that you are asking? Well, its this; it is the number of people needed to take a drug, or undergo a medical procedure, or a surgery, before the first person is actually helped. It is reported to doctors and others in the medical field, but not a lot of people know about it still. I asked nurses and others, they did not know what the heck I was talking about.
So hold on, yes I am saying, crazy as you think I must be, this NNT (number of people needed to treat) should be 1 right. I mean your doctor wouldn’t or shouldn’t prescribe some meds or do an operation that may not help you at all. But I am very sorry to tell you, medical practice does not work that way.
GSK, Glaxo, Smith, Kline – the 6th largest drug company (revenues of 30 billion in 2016), itself estimates that 90% of drugs WORK in about 30% of the people.
You have high cholesterol and your doctor prescribes one of the most widely used drugs to help you. The drug has a NNT number of 300. That means that 300 hundred people have to take the drug before 1 is actually helped by the drug. So that is an 1 in 300 chance.
But wait, you also have to ask your doctor about the side effects, and yep some unpleasant stuff can occur in about 5% of people that take the drug. Now remember 300 people take the meds, 5% of them is 15 people. So what this means – you are 15 times more likely to suffer from the side effects than you are to be helped by the drug. How is that for numbers. That is why drug companies do not want this to be written in plain english to people.
For men over 50, the most widely performed surgery in the USA, is removal of the prostate for cancer. Now the NNT number is 49. So out of the 49 surgeries on average 1 person is really helped by the surgery. And yes I said it’s the most widely performed surgery for men over 50.
But wait, what about the side effects ? Well, side effects like, erectile disfunction, impotence, urinary incontinence etc, occurs in 50% of patients.
So do you realize that this means you are way over 95% unlikely for the surgery to even work. And you more than 25 times likely to suffer from the side effects of the surgery that did not work did not work in the first place.
I am not a doctor. I just did the research work for a friend who was dying.
I am saying that you need to ask your doctor these questions, these ones that nobody wants you to ask, but that you have every right to know.
Please share this with friends and family.
We sometimes forget to consider QUALITY OF LIFE should be discussed and not just extending a life.
When you are allowed to make more informed choices about yourself, it really can make a difference. It can also allow others to understand your decisions clearly.
The freedom to choose is such a wonderful experience that can be shared with those you care about so that everyone can be at peace with your choice.
My friend made his choice, he was younger than the average man in the test group for the NNT (number needed to treat) but he decided. When he first told me, I got busy with providing him with information, it was during this time that I came across the information from a medical scientist. I checked out the info before sharing it with my friend. I am sure as a result of me, and in some peoples mind because of me, I helped him make his choice, but I am fine with that.
I did not share this with his mother, she wanted him to get all the medical treatments possible, but she was mom, she wanted the miracle. I prayed daily for him, but I also respected his wishes.
I miss my friend.
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