The measurement of a man – examines and even asks the questions about these things that can help make a relationship grow, can stimulate conversations and can provide answers to it all.
Topic ; Rediscovering your virginity at age 40
Ladies, even after having children and yes, even after having had your fair share of sex, you CAN rediscover your virginity. Let me explain;
Many of you have seen or at least heard of “the 40 year old virgin”. Well it was with this in mind that I too thought about how (a) men would want a woman with good sexual knowledge, yet was still a virgin. (b) women might want to be able to present herself as brand new to the one she loves, after she has had her children or her wild flings sexually.
Well people, I am not talking about having any medical procedure.
No, I am not a magician either, I cannot put back the cork in the bottle, once it has been opened.
I can tell you how to rediscover that great sense of self, that virginity mentality in your relationship, to improve it dramatically.
This is for everyone, but many will refuse to just try, that is a given. However, it can really improve a woman’s love life and also allow the man in her life, the experience of connecting with her further or maybe for the first time.
I have several ladies that have used my program and they agreed. I normally would give some examples, share some testimonials and so forth. This time I want to just get right into the program and have you others try it.
This is also for women who have just met someone or is in the process of starting a new relationship and in both cases, has not yet had sex with this new man.
It is more detailed than what I am to share with you here in this writing or podcast, but you will have more than enough knowledge to enjoy being a virgin again.
Ladies, men are able to compartmentalize things, if you have read or heard some of my other lessons in understanding men, you already know this. Men can have a section for a woman that is very small or whatever size he may need it to be. However, a lot of men do not need it to be a very large section of the overall file cabinet. So lets continue to use this analogy and examine the mans file cabinet;
A mans internal file cabinet will have a section for sports – taking up maybe 15% of the space. Also a section for sex – taking up 60% of the remaining file space. Then a section for work that takes up 15% more of his space. This then would only leave 10% for building a relationship type space. So when all are added together, a mans full 100% of his space is occupied. I hope all can easily follow this.
Now keep in mind that this is not in anyway exact for every man, the percentage can change in any section, and also their can be way many more sections. I just listed a few to get us into a basic understanding of what I am explaining.
How does understanding about a mans “file space” help you to become a virgin at 40, well just bear with me for a little bit longer and you will see. But please note, this is very vital to your success.
Let’s continue. So now ladies, here is what normally happens; you meet this man and he seems to like you, he knows you have children or he knows you have been in a few relationships before, you all date, you explain you are looking for a serious relationship, you have sex at some point and then you try to get this man to make this your last relationship, in that you want him and you to stay involved, long term.
Well, that is nice, and for a few it might even work out that way. But for many, it will not, because you have been put in the 10% portion of his file space for relationships. His job, sex and even sports take up much more of his mental space. I hope everyone is understanding my point. The main thing is, since a mans “priority” (a word women love to use) is on other things, the relationship can suffer from lack of attention.
Now ladies, when you can change the percentage to something higher in his file cabinet, then you will have began step one it getting to that “virginity” I am leading you up to.
How do you do this you ask ? Well the first step, is to change your first big step.
You should not ask for things you want, after you have given away everything, including your body. Here is how the dating should go; You meet this man and he seems to like you, he knows you have children or that you have been in a few relationships before, you all start dating, you explain you are looking for a serious relationship, he and you both want sex – pause, now this is where you need to understand man, if you have sex now you will be put into the 10% file, and you know how that will go.
So you instead need to wait without having sex and have some detailed, sensible conversation as to what you want. When the time comes for sex again, you might still do not do it. You definitely don’t sexually engage with him, if you are still not convinced that he is getting what you are asking for as yet. Now yes, some men will not ever return, well that simply means that he was not serious, so you have to let that one go.
This is reality check time ladies, because some of you just want sex, but don’t want to just say so.
So now after several dates with no sex and you explaining what you want, the man will then make a decision, a serious choice as to if he is ready for all of this. He now will have to move you out of the 10% range and into maybe a 25% area of his file space – IF – he is ready to be serious.
If he was not ready for a serious relationship, he will just not come back, but at least you know.
You have done your part, you have moved his awareness of your real needs into an area that will more easily satisfy you and your wants.
Now lets continue. If all goes well, your new man will have you, as a higher priority than most things other than sex itself maybe. Now you are still only half way there.
Next, when its time for sex itself, you need to have your breathing in sync, you both need to match each others pattern with every breath while making love. Yes to some it seems too simple of a thing to make any difference, but try it and watch what a more enjoyable feeling you will get.
Its part of a sexual yoga technique that has been taught for a very long time. Breathe deeply.
So to rediscover your virginity at 40, even with 3 kids, you need to do 2 things. You need to understand man’s file space system and you need to experience the pleasure of sex while breathing deeply in harmony with your partner.
As always, to take a complex subject and break it down into only a few lines, you have to leave out some details, but believe me, you have enough insight from this to go far with your next relationship.
By the way, for couples already involved, I will help in another blog to further enhance your rediscovery, but, the breathing techniques will have you both feeling like its brand new again too !!
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